So if you don’t know, now you know… I love beauty! Hair. Skincare. Make Up. Fashion. I just love it all.
Being beautiful on the inside is what matters most, but lets face it…Our world is so image driven, and it is very easy to not feel beautiful when you scroll through Instagram.
I know I struggle with this and, as much as I don’t really care what others think of me, because I am confident in who I am as a person, I do wish I was more put together on a consistent basis.
When you put effort into your image, you are showing the world that you love yourself, you are important, that you care and you want to put your best foot forward. Think about it ladies, don’t you have a little pep in your step after leaving the hair dressers with a fabulous new colour and cut? This is why I love being a hair dresser, I love seeing what it does to not only a woman’s physical appearance, but you see their soul come alive a little more, their smile brighten, you see them straighten their posture as they leave the styling chair, and take a last glance in the mirror thinking “dang, I look good”. The same can be said for a great outfit, or after leaving the spa with a glowing face, and a fresh mani and pedi.
Often I struggle with the superficial side of the beauty industry. Especially how this will affect my daughters. I know there are so many more valuable things in life then being pretty, and I teach them that daily. At the end of the day it isn’t what you look like, or what designer items you own, but who you are as a person, and what you stand for.
Here is the thing though. When you take care of your self, and put effort into your appearance, you truly feel like the best version of yourself. Your confidence rises, negative feelings dissipate, and your relationships even improve.
God designed each and every one of us uniquely, and to be special. My standards of beauty may be different then your own. There are stages in life that other things are just more important then getting your roots touched up.
I am almost 5 years from having my first daughter, and I can truly say I feel ok about taking time for myself again. It took me all this time to not feel guilt about it, and to teach myself that its ok if my time isn’t devoted to my kiddos 100% of the time. It’s ok to put Paw Patrol on so I can go blow dry, and curl my hair.
It’s ok to take an hour every day to go to the gym to work out. I think most moms can agree when I say you lose a part of yourself when you become “mommy”. That is ok. You gain so many new and amazing things, and you will figure yourself out again. A new and better version of you because now you know undying love, and true selflessness.
So does beauty matter? I sure think so, but beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. My kids think I am the prettiest woman alive. My husband loves me no matter my size, no matter my hair colour, no matter if I am in a nice dress or in my jammies.
My family and friends love and support me, and think I am just great. They know my heart. I don’t have to look like a Victoria Secret model to be beautiful. I just have to be me. Do my best, be kind, spend some time on my outward appearance, a lot more time on my inner beauty and not judge others but build them up.
So ladies I encourage you to take a step back, don’t compare yourself to anyone, put in the effort, and love yourself. That’s true beauty. That’s what matters. Teach your daughters this. Oh and compliment a friend or a stranger every now and then. You never know how much that might mean to them. That’s real beauty.